Have you ever had a girlfriend or ex-girlfriend who thought that they cheated on you? Well I have, and it shows how much they really don't care. Lets elaborate more on my situation. First, she thinks that whenever I drink or drank that I try to get on any girl in sight, thats not the case. What happens usually is I get drunk and go to bed, or puke... that simple. On the otherside of the hypocrisy ridden female, she goes out to partys, drinks, spends nights at other peoples houses, specifically guys (which I don't do with girls). She said and stills says to this day that she thinks I cheated on her. Still to this day I have never cheated on her, I would swear on the bible in front of a judge on that, even though she doesn't trust me.
Second, she always got upset when I got protective with her doing these actions. Her point of view, was "I was with friends, nothing happened." She also thought that I was trying to control her and what she does. Ok, I live an hour away from her and she does these things, I saw her maybe once or twice a weekend. How the hell am I suppose to react? Obviously, I am going to be protective when I see SOOOO much of her. So, I can understand where she comes from, but it shows that she didn't give a shit what I thought or how I felt because she never compromised or gave up anything for me.
Third, love - WHAT LOVE? There was none, no intimate conversations for 4 months, cut off from kissing and what not for approx 2 months, I guess this girl was living in a fantasy world, because she completely shut me out of her life. First, she shuts me out of her school life, telling me not to talk to her, or can't talk long (on the phone cuz we lived apart). Second, she didn't want me to ever stay down there aroudn the last 2 months of school, kind of wierd cuz she use to always want me to stay down there with her whenever I had free time. Third, she didn't ever want me to go out to the bar with her on thursday nights, she just wanted to finish up with school and be done. Funny thing is she told me that and then went out to the bar that week and completely backstabbed me with those words. Fourth, her roomate, who hates me, always tried setting her up with other guys, it pisses me off cuz i was never reassured. More on this roomate, they fought alot early in our relationship, around the time that they made up, the ex-g/f started fighting with me. Ok, next she shut me out of her work life, "don't come out to the golf course," she said, even though I golf, and then she didn't want to come over to my place after work anymore. However, she would want to go out to the bar after work, backstabbed again. And then third, social life. She didn't want to go to partys with me, or to any partys of my friends places. She thought all I want to do is sit home and do nothing. Kinda funny actually. Well when I told her we could go out, she said that she didn't want to with me cuz I wouldn't want to play cards and I wouldn't ever leave her alone at the party. Ok, we went to one party together on new years, and I didn't even want to go, so just cuz there was one bad experience doesn't mean the rest of the party life is going to suck. So, no social life together. Then the final notch, she thought that we needed time apart, time to think things through and time to figure things out. Obviously, we never really spent anytime together except on the phone and holidays. And most of the time she was just yelling at me and me yelling back. So as she shut me out of her life, one thing after another. And she thought that i would be happy.
Busted my ass - I worked hard to iron things out with her. I bought her flowers, started doing as she said, I started letting her be a free women, so to speak, and I worked on all my bad habits to try to make myself more friendlier to be around. None of it worked, she thought I was just being not-normal, go figure.
Well, she is wrong, what happened was I grew apart from her, and she just didn't want to be with me. Plain and simple.
Well here I sit, just kicked my ex-girlfriend out of my life. I told her not to call me, email me, txt msg me, or do anything to try and communicate to me. I did this because we have both gotten sick of each other. She says she loved me, but she didn't. She says she cared about me, but she didn't. She said she thought we could work things out, but we can't. I guess this dealer just dealt his last hand with her. There was a chance for us to get back together, but she gone and messed it up. I told her that if anything happened between me and a girl, or her and guy, it was going to be completely over. What does she do, she goes and gets drunk and supposedly slept on the couch at this guys house. Ok, lets not jump to conclusions but lets. First, this guy is single. Second, this is a guy she never was friends with untill she started working at the golf course and asked me to not come out there, this guy goes out there. Third, she was drinking with this guy and spent the night. Fourth, at my bar where I work I overheard him talking about hitting on her, he didn't know that us two were dating then. So I don't know about everyone else but 3 days broke up and she is already staying at a guys house and I don't stand for that crap. I gave her the stuff back that she gave me, or that we bought together otherwise it would of gone in the garbage.
My girlfriend and I splitup, my grandpa is in the hospital getting triple by-pass surgery, Right now I need time to think, I will not be posting for awhile, thanks for understanding
Well here i am sitting @ work again , have a quick minute to update and let everyone know what I am up to. First, I sprained my ankle yesterday playing basketball. As a result, I have taken up drinking alcohol when I get home to dull the pain. I know that drinking slows down the process of healing and kills the antibodys. However, It gets me to bed, without health insurance, so i will continue for a while untill i am healthy, peace
Heres a little update, I just got a membership at the YMCA in town where I work. This should be something that helps me relax, kick back, and enjoy my life. I like to swim, they have an olympic size pool. I like basketball, they got 6 courts. I lift weights, they have a huge selection of weights to lift and use. Recently, I have had trouble finding things to do! However, I have started new activitys and taken different options in my life recently which will help me effectively take up timeand make my life valuable, because lately I only go to work! Now instead of whats there to do, it is going to be don't have time to do it! I know this will probably be bad and good in my life. For example, I currently have a cat that needs attention and maintenance. This cat will be going to a new home once I have it my way. Untill then, I will be stuck as well as the cat with each other suffering through these days where the cat see me when I wake up, and sometimes before i go to bed. The cat still gets interaction as well as food. Any ways, life is good lately, no hassles, no problems, no attatchments of guilt. I guess lately I have found a reason to live for myself, instead of for other people. To elaborate, I would say, treat people how they treat you. Nothing more, nothing less. If they want to be with you, they will be with you. If they do not want to be with you, they will not be with you. So, don't worry about people because they come and go like the rain. If you miss this drop, you can catch the next one.
working two nineteen hour days and two ten hours days in a total of 4 consecutive days really wears a guy out! I don't get sick of work, I just wish it didn't seem to last so long! anyways, my g'pa is holding up fine, I am getting a membership at the YMCA, and life is peachy, peace
alright, I have been told by many people to take a genderized role and be a man about my relationship with my girlfriend. However, i have others telling me to get a hobby to either make money on the side like painting or crafts or something that takes up a lot of time. what type of hobbies do you do?
Smoking - not good for your health. people know this but are addicted to the point where it is to late to stop. Recently I have had a terrible encounter with this and have been stressed out tremendously. I just want people to know that they should quit smoking to stop hurting themselves as well as the people around them!!!!
b/f or g/f tells you they dont want to be serious anymore how do you take it?
How do you take it when your spouse tells you they dont want to be serious anymore? How do you take it when they want to start going out to bars, partys, movies with different guys or girls without you? Yes, there needs to be time apart. There also needs to be ground rules and somewhere the line needs to be drawn. I always ask my self the question, why doesn't she want to go out with me? I know right now she has school and work up the ying yang. However, after this she wants to go do these things, its not that I have problem with her going out, i don't, its that she doesnt ever want to do it with me.
Maybe it is just me but from my experiences and knowledge, when two people are seeing each other they usually go out together. Usually to partys, the bar, movies, stuff like that is usually done together. what do your personal experiences tell you? Share them.
Ok, I woke up today and left for work at approx. 8hours today and then. I didn't eat all day. Then I drove home and got my cat and drove to Marshall. However, I spazzed out cuz I was cranky, and I displaced my frustration out on my g/f. I am stupid, I should not have done that. I am so sorry. I am a complete idiot. If I was her I would of probably gotten rid of me, however, she loves me to death as well as I to her. When I do things like tonight, It shows her I don't care or love her. I do love her and care for her! So why did this happen? I have not quite figured it out. However, I am coming up with solutions to help with my anger management. First, I am gonna make cheat sheets to put into my wallet for when i get mad or upset or sad. These cheat sheets are going to have things that help me get through my rough times. For example, the first couple of things will say stuff like "have you eaten today?" or "how much sleep did you get last night?" It will say these things to remind me that maybe I have had just a long day and I have no reasons to be frustrated with anyone, so dont make excuses. So I would like to take this time to apologize to my girlfriend for the hudredth millionth timeth cuz I feel guilty, bad, sad and I feel i have disgraced her! I feel like I need to step my emotions up a notch and not be such a wuss! Stef, I can't let my emotions get the best of me! I need to be strong and I need to stand tall. If my emotions try and take ahold of my life they will eat me alive. I apologize for the inconsistency of my emotions. I apologize for the disgrace I have caused you both in the relationship and out of the relationship! I love you
First, God is a Timberwolves fan. Second, whether the T-wolves lose against the kings on Tues or not, they deserve to Move into the next round. They deserve it more than the kings. The reason is simple, the Kings are cheap and have poor sportsmanship. What do I mean by cheap? First, Brad Miller has been trying to agitate the wolves into doing something they shouldn't do... like fight. For example, putting his hand in KG's face and possibly poking him in the eye. Second, Brad Miller and his physicallity against Derek Martin. He is almost 50-100 lbs lighter and at least 1/2 foot shorter than you... you think thats fair! Cheap. Sacramento center Brad Miller was fined $10,000 for directing an obscene gesture toward fans at the Target Center after he was ejected from Game Five following an altercation with Darrick Martin. Third, Anthony peeler throwing an elbow into the MVP KG! What is this guy thinking? KG got up slowly only to put an elbow back into his abdomen, eye for an eye, than Peeler took a swing at Garnett. Be a man Peeler not a boy and play some basketball. Fourth, how about the bad sportsmanship by Mike Bibby throwing his headband into the crowd after fouling out in game 5. Or how about Brad Miller going after a hurt Sam Cassell when he Sam earned his 6th foul in game 6. Finally, the T-wolves fans have not sunk low enough to throw misc. crap on to the Stage of the greatest athletes, the court. Like I said the T-wolves deserve to win, kings don't
Have you been in a long distance relationship? Is/has/will it work out? Have you had difficulties? I know I have had difficulties. I know that if my girlfriend and I had not dated twice before, or started out on such a great note last summer that this relationship would of ended by now. She and I have been through a lot of tests together. This next week will most likely be one of the biggest tests of them all. I start my job at the college and start regularly bartending parttime on weekends. She is also going on a trip on next Sunday Morning at 7a.m. till Wendsday Nite. On top of that she has to work Thurs nite, Fri nite, saturday with going to school 8 hours a day... long schedule for her and I together. I know that we will get through it and I know that we will be as strong as ever when she gets home. Only seeing her twice this month is gonna be a little trying but I love her to death. I hope she has fun on her trip and is safe there and back. Growing acostumed to this long distance thing is tuff, especially when in the beginning we saw each other everyday for 3 months rather than now which is 2 times a week max. Having her home in two weeks is gonna be wierd but great. I have dearly missed our intimate conversations and the long nights watching movies on the couch. I have missed my baby a lot!
I have come to the conclusion that it is not betrayal, just miscommunication. If it were to happen to me, I would probably freak out right away and then calm down after I heard everything and why it happened. I am the type of guy who will just kinda freak out until he knows why it happened. I wish I could change that feature about myself. It gets me into a lot of trouble.
setting g/f and b/f who usually talk everyday for 11 months straight they decide to take a quick seperation to take time apart to refocus except they can talk and do things on the weekend. ok now They havent talked since Sunday and she says "I will probably call you after work on Friday" ok she works till 1am approx. and he is thinking great I havent talked to her in forever I can hopefully talk to her on Friday, so he waits up till 1am gets flustered and calls her work they say that she hasnt worked all night. Now he hangs up, and sits in confusion. Why didn't she call me? Ok, well anyways he calls her cell phone 3 times, she doesnt pick up. Then she finally calls back after 10-15 minutes. It is now like 1:15 am approx. At this point the b/f is frustrated out of his mind because he feels somewhat lied to and not cared about. He stayed up only to hear his g/f defend herself about how she "Probably" was gonna call him. how would you feel if your spouse did this to you?
Today May 14th, my last day of College for the semester and the first day of doing my laundry in a year... WOW! I have not done my laundry in such a long time that I almost forgot how to do it. I will probably not fold my clothes cuz i dont care. I have always had my mom or g/f to do my laundry. It feels wierd not having them do it for me! Its alright i got some alone time in, however the last half hour was so boring. any ways of again for the day...
Ok heres the deal, I have been up since 5:30am it is now like 6:15. I have my last final today! YES! I hope I do well. I woke up early so i can get to school early and study my little butt off! I am well rested and I almost feel like a million bucks however something missing, or should I say I am missing... well however I just wanted to let all you know whats goin on, later
Well, I have 4 classes 1. psychology 2. English 3. Computer 4. CPR. I spent all together about 400 dollars on books however this semester the only book i can return for any cash at all is my dinky little grammar book. I can get like 12 bucks, that sucks! I have checked online stores and what not for the prices but no one is buying them so I am stuck with 400 dollars worth of books for my ever collecting home library which is up to about 50-100 books now. I am so sick of being a college student and getting ripped off like this, stupid annual books should not cost as much as they are selling them for! Let me hear your complaints
Um, yeah I don't feel good today and either does my cat... it puked and I am stressed out in my life. I have 1 final left and 3 finals are finished. I worked late last night at the bar and got up early this morning. this is dull but at least you all know i am alive...
Here I am, sitting at work wondering what my grades are gonna be after tomorrow, I have 2 finals. Hopefully, I do excellent and get a B in my English class! i hope i can bring my Psychology grade up also! I have no idea where I am sitting in that class, but i know i am not doin that good. Sometimes I wish I was as smrt as my g/f, however I am not. Well, i get to start my first night of bartending tonight, how fun! I am looking forward to it, as I have always wanted to be a bartender like my mother used to be before she became a housekeeper. She bartended for around 10-15 years, I am not quite sure because I was too young to remember when she started. I know that she started when my family lived in Connetticut. I was 3 years old then. Well anyways last night I went out and had some fun! My friend and I went storm chasing till 1 in the morning, not the best storm but it was exciting. boredom sets in........... peace and love, go T-Wolves!!
If your male partner, spouse, boyfriend, significant other, or whatever you call him was to go on a break or a healing seperation from the relationship, what would you think? How would you feel? Would you be glad, happy, sad?
ok ok ok I know I kind of went over this is the last blog but here is a general list of rules we are following...
1. No communication during the week mon-fri - includes email, msn msgr or any other IM service, text messages(which she is already breaking) and phone calls - unless emergency was to happen. even so after the emergency the seperation continues. 2. Spend 1 day together during the week 3. No touching, no dates, no flirting, no other gender relationships outside of the seperation... we are still together. We are not trying to explore, just trying to get back on track. 4. Spend only 15 mins at one persons place of residence. 5. No spending the night at each others place of residence. 6. Time spent together needs to be quality time or time is not spent together.
Sorry, I have been out in a while, it is finals week at college and I have been studying my butt off! First, Joe I called mom she said she was sick and that she wasn't going to grandpa's. Second, I didn't know you were in town until I talked to Wendy tonight. Third, here is my latest post, sorry it took forever. Where do I start... well ok lets start with my g/f. She and I are taking a healing seperation from each other. I know what your thinking, a break. No, it is not a break. What a healing seperation does is it allows you to focus less time on each other and start using your time together as quality time. It will be hard, but it will be healthy for the two of us, otherwise I doubt there would be a chance it would work out between her and I, if we continued at the crappy pace we were going. Second, I just got hired at Millers Bar In Danube as a part-time Bartender. I am psyched with this job opportunity, it will give me a social life. Next, I have been playing basketball lately as exercise to my boring life. I play about 2 hours a day average. I am hoping I can dunk by the end of summer, I am 5"11.' Finally, I have been contemplating what I should do next semester with College and I have decided that ..... I am 90% sure.... I will not be going to SMSU or SCSU I am planning on going to Ridgewater college and get my AA degree and then move onto a college. I have registered for classes and await the next semester. T-wolves won this morning at 1:00AM...114-113 up in the series 2-1, nite for now, gotta get some sleep, lots of studying tomorrow. Peace and Love
Help... How to be positive in a negative relationship?
How does one stay positive when all they can lately thing about is negative thoughts. Also, when their partner is also negative about things, how should they respond? I wish I could awnser these questions. I wish I could be polite. I wish I could be the best boyfriend in the world. Lately, it seems like, I am horrible, because I cannot, even with self awareness, be non-defensive when talking to my partner. Please, if you have suggestions post it. Thanks
If your siginficant other has 2 roomates and usually stays up till 3:00am would you be kinda curious as to why guys are over at their place past 1:00A.M. ? How about adding 50 miles in between the two of you? How about if they said they were gonna call/text you about there work schedule and they forget? I think I would be upset however I couldn't really express my opinion to the significant other if they are unwilling to listen.
Well, I just got out of my English class and I am happy. My English teacher, Ms. Karsten, said "You should do excellent in English 122." This excites me because she knows that I have really improved, and it shows that she is most likely gonna pass me! I don't know about every one else out there in the Digital World, but I have always had a hell of a time with English class. What are your stories? Let the Horror stories begin!!!
In the torturous wee hours of sitting at the computer here at work, I realize my life could be better because I am not normal. To be better, I need to do things in life that make sense and doesn't hurt anyone. You know what I am talking about, I need to focus more on myself and being a good person instead of focusing on the negative with some people. What I mean is to not be mean, controlling, A-hole... I need to be a nice, relaxed Positive person. For example, I need to allow my g/f to go to partys with out [b]ME [/b]because she needs her independance and wants to hang out with her old friends. Because she feels like we are married already, my girlfriend needs her independance from [b]ME[/b]. Also, I need to fix [b]MY[/b] problem, with her talking on the phone with guys late at night. Because I get upset when guys call her late at night, I cause problems because I don't like it and it makes me feel uneasy. Next, I need to fix My problem with talking to her on the phone so much. It seems, as if she doesn't like or want to talk to me. For example, lately she gets mad at me and I have to sit defending myself for 1/2 hr out of a 1 hr conversation. As a result, I feel like I need to stop talking on the phone as much with her because I feel that If I wasn't such a jerk-hole, I wouldn't have to defend myslef on a consitant basis. What this does, is it eats at my life energy and continues to make me feel more and more depressed because we never talk about anything positive and/or anything except negatives. However, this must be my fault because she says I don't act normal anymore. Also, these conversations are all about....... I did this this and this today, and the I speak, i did this this and this.... then silence... then a fight. So, what should I do? I know some of this stuff might be irrational, however I feel as if I need to CHANGE because i am not normal anymore...later
First, I would like to explain that I am attempting to do something that my girlfriend might not like. I am trying to get things back to the way they were when she and I started dating. Things were relaxed, quiet, nice, no mean things were ever said... you know it was perfect! Next, I would like to explain What I am actually doing. First, I have been acting as if I don't give a shit what or where she goes. I used to act like this when we first got together cuz i felt as if I could not express myself to her... now if I dont express myself I get into trouble. Second, I have been doing more things that involve time without her. I know she isn't going to like this one especially because she lives an hour away at college and we see each other usually only on the weekends and holidays. So, she will probably be upset that I am sacrificing time of "ours." None the less, I need this extra time to focus my attention onto getting things quote on quote "Back to normal" For example, she still has guys calling her asking her to go to partys again... no big deal right? No, she wouldnt awnser the phone in front of me, I told her to do it... she was scared to do it because she thought I would get mad, I didnt. So she did try to awnser it but he had hung up already, so I told her to call him back and see what he wanted right... she had the audacity to go into the next room so I couldn't hear what she was saying. She first said that she was gonna go in there because she doesnt feel like she can call people in front of other people and says that she will leave the door open so i can hear her. Ok right, NO! She talked so quiet I could not even hear her... ok, a little suspicous... maybe, but at least I didn't care if she was talking to him anymore, however her antics scare me. What antics? The ones I described of her going in the room and being really quiet. i don't know how most people would feel about this but I doesn't sit that well with me, however I love her and I want to be with her... I will work through any of my problems, I just hope she wont put her shoulders up and brush my dirt off of her shoulders. What do you think?.. peace and love to everyone in the world
In this rapidly changing world, some things never change. First, George Bush Senior or W. It does not really matter, they as former and current president say one thing and do another. For example, "Save Americans Money" George W. Said, yet he continues to make the rich get richer and poor get poorer. WEll George... I have got a question for you... How much money have you spent in the last week on war? I bet all of that money could of saved our health care problem in the U.S. Also, what have you done for this country? Let me tell you what you have done... you have ruined peoples lives, you have affected my life, I recently applied for over 40 jobs, not one phone call back... that is how bad people are looking for jobs, you dont care though with your millions of dollars from your oil farms, sick bastard. Back to health care, as a college student who cannot find a job... If i get sick or die, someone else is going to have to front the bill, I don't like that someone else is going to have to live with my burdens, my responsibilities, your an inconsiderate prick Mr. George W..... I hate you go to Hell!!! Former Republican New and Current Democrat Justin Engelmann
*****Written at 3:00 A.M. ***** As I watch the car speed off in the distance out of my 2nd floor apt window, my heart starts to thump harder and harder. My heart thumps because tonight something out of the ordinary happened. My girlfriend worked way... way... way late and didn't show up to my apt untill 2:30 A.M. She usually gets off work at 1:00A.M. So as I would have it... Frustrations, Insecurities, and Trust Issues. I don't really know what I feel right now. I guess I want to know if this going to be a normal trend or is this a one time deal? As a result, I am awake and sitting here in confusion... as her tail lights go out of my sight and my hands get clamy, I think hey its 3:00A.M. I am upset, I don't yet comprehend why I am though. So where do I go from here and what should I think? She did call me at about 1:36 A.M., even though that is after the time she gets off and is the normal time she would get home. Is she maybe out breaking my heart? I mean lets look at the details, she did dress up tonight and wore makeup for the first time since last summer excluding holidays and school trips. She doesn't even dress up for anything we do anymore, she doesn't care to impress me at all. Am I not important? Am I not attractive enough for her? Is it that she already has me and feels like she is comfortable with me? Is being comfortable bad? Even after coming home after work late, she was supposed to spend the night... SUPPOSED to spend the night!!!! However she had changed her mind and went home after making me wait up all night for her, (added in.... I missed my 1st hour class of college by the way.) Ever since Last Sunday she was on this kick like she had other plans or something, i am not sure what she was doing, all i know is she needed this "particular night [to do this] for myself," she had said... She gives me an excuse of me being to controlling - I think she made plans and is rebelling against me... what do you think?
